When I found out I was pregnant, of course I downloaded one of the pregnancy tracking apps, The Bump. Each week I found out what fruit or vegetable was the same size as my baby (and me and the dude often wondered if the app creators had ever seen these foods in person) and every day I was given “daily reads” to learn more about what to expect and what was happening.
Knowing I was only having one baby, I skipped over nearly everything about multiples. And I was so confident that I was not having a c-section that I sort of skimmed over those sections as well.
Well guess what….I ended up having a c-section. As I was faced with the decision to continue laboring for a couple more hours with no guarantee of results or go for a c-section, I wished I had read more about the procedure to calm my fears.
I had stories from family and friends to rely on, but some were scarier than others. I heard horror stories of an epidural wearing off before the procedure and the patient feeling everything. I heard about catheters being placed before the epidural kicked in. I heard about painful recoveries and the words “major abdominal surgery.” To be honest, I was scared.
On one hand, no amount of reading about the procedure was going to make me less nervous. It’s a major surgery after all, and knowing every detail about it likely would have made me spiral. But I do wish I had read about the “normal” experiences ahead of time. I truly lucked out having an easy c-section with what seems to be a speedy recovery.
So here’s what I can tell you about it if you ever find yourself in my situation.
- The doctor is going to make sure you don’t feel a hint of pain. This was one thing I brought up to my doctor in making my decision: was I going to feel anything? His response was absolutely not. It wouldn’t be ethical for him to operate on someone that’s awake if they could feel it. The anesthesiologist upped whatever was going in through the epidural, my doctor gave me a hard pinch, on my stomach area when it kicked in, and I didn’t even know he did it. I truly felt nothing. The anesthesiologist demonstrated on my forehead that I would feel some movement, pressure, and pulling during the procedure but none of that was paired with pain. And how he demonstrated it on my forehead was nearly exactly how it felt.
- Pain meds will give you the shakes. This was a surprising part of the experience for me. I’ve never had any surgery or been put under for any procedure (the most I’ve interacted with the medical system outside of routine check ups is getting stitches when I was 2 or 3), I had no idea this would be part of it. I was nervous and thought maybe the upper half of my body was shaking from that, and maybe it was a little, but it was mostly pain meds. And that lasts for a bit after the procedure too. When we were moved to the recovery area after my surgery, I continued to shake for who knows how long (time no longer existed at that point) but was covered in blankets to stay warm. I was also able to do skin-to-skin with the baby once the shakes were under control.
- You’ll get to see your baby emerge but none of the gore! There’s a curtain that goes up just below your neck so you can’t see anything that’s happening (thank god), but someone in the room may pull it down just enough for you to see the baby being born. This was pretty cool. I saw their head come out! But did not see where it came from. Because the dude was sitting in an actual chair he could see everything, but he told me it didn’t even look real.
- You can still do some skin-to-skin quickly after the procedure. Obviously they can’t lay the baby directly on your chest after they’re born, but once they were all cleaned up and weighed the nurse brought the baby over and placed their cheek against my cheek. It was awesome.
- You have to stay in your bed for several hours after the procedure. But you won’t even notice how long it’s been. I delivered around 10 PM and was absolutely exhausted so staying in bed sounded amazing to me. While you can move your top half pretty easily at that point in time, it’s not recommended that you try to sit up or anything. I tried to do this when the baby needed a diaper change once we were in the recovery room and it was very uncomfortable. It wasn’t necessarily painful, but my body definitely said “no” as I tried to get in a seated position.
- You’ll be told to “stay ahead of the pain.” Basically, once you start to feel pain from recovering, it’s hard to catch up and get it under control. My nurses gave me Tylenol and Motrin every 6 hours and I’ve continued that since coming home. They also used lidocaine patches on my stomach to help dull any nerve damage pain. I’ve continued those as well and have honestly not been in any pain since the procedure. I’ve been taking it super easy even though I feel good enough to be doing more, and that’s helped me recover on a good timeline.
- You’ll have some intense swelling in your legs, ankles, and feet. This is normal and it’s due to all the fluid pumped into you for the c-section. I’m not sure what other hospitals do, but while I was staying in bed the nurses hooked me up to some compression sleeves to help alleviate the swelling. Once I could get up and move around, I did my best to move a bit to work through it too. Once I got home I realized just how crazy the swelling was. Wearing socks left impressions in my legs. My shoes didn’t fit. I had to wear flip flops around my house. But I drank lots of water to flush out the fluids (it’s counter-intuitive, but it works), and within a week it went away. Each day it went down a little bit more.
I wish I could think of an even ten things for this list, but everything else is pretty typical of what you’ll read about giving birth. You’ll still look pregnant for a bit (I’m two weeks out and am still wearing maternity pants but they’re getting looser on me), you need to take it easy, etc. Maybe this will help another person get ready for a c-section even if they’re not expecting one. I can tell you that I’m definitely grateful that I went that direction. My baby simply did not want to come out and mentally I couldn’t handle labor any longer. It was the safest route to go even though it was the scariest for me at the time.